This is the story of my life. No ordinary life, but that was my choice. In fact I fought against an existence which would have been meat and three veg. I have used the gifts that God gave me and honed a few more to travel the world and meet myriad people that the ordinary housewife can only read about in gossip magazines. What makes me tick? What makes my clients do what they do? Their fantasies are my reality. Meet my co-workers and friends. This book is not meant to shock or offend but to educate and entertain. If you are judgmental or moralistic keep moving. This book is not for you. For those of you who wish to join me on my life’s adventures, this is the first in a series of books about sex, fetishes and fantasies and how a little girl from a wheat and sheep farm in outback Australia came to be one of the world’s most infamous call girls. Take control of your life or others will.
Violet Ivy xxx
Book review by Xaviera Hollander - Famous author of the Happy Hooker series
Violet Ivy approached me to write a review of her debut novel ‘Lucky Girl – How I Survived the Sex Industry’. My first thought was that this was just another hooker book, but having met her at my home in Amsterdam, I was convinced this girl’s story was worth a second look.
Her life has been no ordinary one, but that was her choice. Like many of us she faced the dilemma…to conform to what society dictates is ‘acceptable’ and ‘normal’ or to break free and truly experience...carpe diem…seize the day. A beautiful woman can truly have the world as her oyster. And as she says… ‘Take control of your life or others will.’
I found, from reading Violet’s book, some similarities in our experiences. Some chapters lead to an endorphin rush, others left me in tears. We’ve both known broken promises, judgemental reactions, negativity and prejudice, but at the same time we are strong, independent women who get up, brush ourselves off and persist where lesser individuals fail.
She is not out to paint a rainbow of diamonds and pearls, encouraging the Pretty Woman myth, but to share a glimpse of her fascinating experiences. Neither is this a story of drugs, abuse and hopelessness. Quite the opposite. She is open about her setbacks and insecurities as well as her progress through the ranks from cheap hooker in an outback mining town to sought after, international, elite escort. A woman who can choose her clients and is well rewarded for her class, poise…and hidden skills.
This book will encourage conversation. As more sex workers open their experiences to the public we will see changes to laws and empowerment of women. Money gives options that poverty takes away. It allows for education, a clean, safe address and a better life.
There will always be men wanting sex, fantasies and fetish. If there were no clients there would be no sex industry. Every person is different and they all have their needs. Prostitution is necessary but does it have to be a necessary evil?
Her second book ‘Sex and Sexuality – The Interviews’ has her exploring the lives of her friends. She must have amazing dinner parties. This book is refreshing and honest. You could be a fly on the wall as she chats to them about their out of the ordinary lives; another high class escort, sex shop worker, transgender B&D Mistress, street walker, slave, nudist, Madam and clients. You could be sitting next to any one of these on the bus tomorrow and never know. Only through reading books like Violet’s can you see a little of their worlds. We can never know someone until we walk a mile in their shoes. For the sake of empathy…not sympathy…this book had to be written.
Her books are forthright, entertaining and informative.
Exceptional and highly recommended. Fascinating reading from the first page until the last.
I can’t wait for the next one.
'Do what I did, save your judgment for the black robed people sitting on the bench...or at least after you read Lucky Girl.'
Tina Traverse's Blog
'How does an intelligent, educated young girl working towards a degree go from part time bar lady to International Sex Worker?'
According to Violet Ivy, quite easily. The right mix of circumstance and choice and Bob's your uncle! I was intrigued from the start and could literally relate to her every emotion and thought in the beginning.
Throughout the book her stories are very interesting, informative and well presented.
She has morals, integrity and a great head on her shoulders, but found herself liking the freedom this field offered in the end. I don't blame or judge her. Overall it was a very educational and entertaining read.
Nat's Book Nook
Not bad at all, Violet!
Kudos for doing what you do and take the best from a world that could just as easily have destroyed you.
I wonder how many readers have a profession that isn’t looked upon with universal approval and dare to talk about it, or would dare to come forward if they had?
All That's Written...Lucy Pireel, author, reader, blogger
Well known blogger Lizzie Clayton's review
English sex blogger Betedennuit's review
Review by Paul Little
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Excerpts of Lucky Girl - How I Survived the Sex Industry
“Where does anyone’s story start? Does it begin onthe day we are dragged into the world kicking and screaming? Is that the first taste of abuse, when fingers rove our little mouths and we are given a sharpslap on the arse to make us haul that first breath of the outside world into our fragile lungs? How do we become what we become? Every question leads to another question and every answer, to yet another question.
'But why daddy?'
'But why because?'
'Just because because darling.'
My first booking...
I know this is a defining moment in my life. How did I ever get to this point? On the edge, as a would-be-hooker, about to take money for sex. To sell myself for a fee. Compromise my innermost integrity? Lower myself to become one of those dirty whores? This client is a complete stranger. Haven't even met him, let alone had a beer with him. What if he’s ugly? Or obese and squashes me? Or doesn’t like me? Rejects me? Norm comes around to my side of the car, reaches in and takes my hand.
‘Come on dear. Time to go in.’
The old saying that money doesn’t make you happy might be true but tell that to the person who is being thrown out of his house because he can’t make the payments or that mother who can’t afford to give Christmas presents to her kids again this year. I’ve been there. Unable to pay my rent and having the phone cut off. Money gave me choices. Options to choose how to travel on this journey we call life. Did I make some mistakes? Sure I did! But there is not too much I would take back. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and all that. Money gives you security. Poverty gives you ulcers. Lack of finances can also make you compromise yourself in ways that being a sex worker never will.
This job is not for everyone. It is an industry that eats its young and can damage those not strong enough to cope. Every worker has a different personality, head space, upbringing, personal history and therefore experience. This book is a glimpse of mine.
I'm a lucky girl. In my profession there are times when luck sits on your shoulder like a pirate’s parrot. Knowing you are lucky means never pushing it, always evaluating, not becoming complacent such that your guard is down. Never ever tell that lucky little voice whispering in your ear to shut up. The first rule of the Working Girl. Respect your luck.”
Read below what other esteemed authors are saying about her writing style...
‘From the opening paragraph to the final words I was hooked, no pun intended. Frankly there is no other book like Lucky Girl whether one reaches for Diary of a Call Girl or The Happy Hooker. Well, there is one comparison...the work of Nancy Friday who wrote in a similar fashion. When one writes about bondage and discipline it is necessary to keep in mind the sensibilities of readers who may not understand these matters. For me it was an eye-opener. Lucky Girl gave me an understanding of B&D that now makes complete sense to me. People should read this and understand the life and mind of a sex worker. It becomes obvious very quickly that not all are uneducated drug addicts who can't hold down a job anywhere else. I look forward to the follow up books. Violet Ivy is a writer, and that is the highest praise any reviewer can give. To possess such talent suggests that Violet Ivy is indeed a Lucky Girl.’
Graham Whittaker, Author, The Girl from Kosovo
‘…gripped me from the start …very readable, an honest account of someone 'who's been there'. An important work worth publication.’
Ruko Kitamaru, Author, No Ice Cream in the Land of the Cannibals
‘I read every chapter and want more. A fascinating look into your world presented with straight forward honesty, warmth and colour. Such a fresh contrast to the drab, dark or dirty shades that the media and society paints your career. I’m completely fascinated to know more about Violet, she's so real.’
K Malone, Author, Twell
‘I was interested in comparing this with Belle de Jour’s books which I read last year. Whilst I remember almost nothing of hers, I’m pretty sure parts of your diary will stay with me. You’re not afraid to tell it as it is; warts, unpleasant odours and all!’
Camac Johnson, Author, Hemingway Quest
‘A light and humorous but overall compelling biography….an in depth and revealing picture of the life of a sex worker, at the same time demonstrating that someone working in this industry has the talent and perspicacity to write a biography of this quality. Well done…..it’s really very good.’
Janet Holt and Helen Parker, Authors, The Stranger In My Life
What readers are saying about Lucky Girl – How I Survived the Sex Industry?
‘Is this woman real? She must be. You couldn’t make this story up. I feel that I know her, the way she thinks, her motivations. Can’t wait for the sequel.’….Mel H, Birmingham, England.
‘A real page turner.’…..George W, Ontario, Canada
‘More, more….more please! I got to the end and still wanted to keep reading. Fantastic!’ Irene K, Sydney, Australia
‘Very Belle de Jour.’ Fred C, Port Douglas, Australia
‘Good to see the Aussie perspective. You go girl! Can I take you out for a drink sometime? I know you’ve got more stories to tell.’ Dirk B, Brighton, England.
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